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Wedding invitation wording

Wedding Invitation Wording

How you word your wedding invitations is personal and dependent on what you need to say, but here are some rules and templates that will hopefully help guide you.

What are the rules?

If you want to follow the traditional invitation style, there are a few rules to follow:

  • Invitations are generally written in the third person
  • The bride’s name should appear before the groom’s
  • When listing the time, date and venue, the time and date should be written first and the venue last
  • Use titles, such as Dr, Mrs, etc when appropriate
  • ‘The honour of your presence’ or ‘The pleasure of your company’ is the normal choice of wording. The former is often used for invitations to religious ceremonies such as a church wedding; the latter for invitations to an event in a non‐religious venue
  • Generally, names, times and places are placed on separate lines.

What details should I put on the invite?

Although your wedding invitation wording may differ, depending on the degree of formality you want to convey, make sure it includes the following:

  • names of the bride’s parents or other hosts (if you are hosting your own wedding this can be left out)
  • name of the bride (title, first and or last name depending on the level of formality you want to present)
  • name bridegroom (title, first and or last name depending on the level of formality you want to present)
  • where the ceremony is taking place
  • time, date, month and year of the wedding ceremony
  • location of the wedding reception
  • address to which guests should reply and a reply date

additionally you may wish to add any of the following if they are appropriate:

  • details of any dress code/theme
  • time guests can expect the day to come to an end
  • whether children are invited

Who are the invitations from?

Invitations are always sent from whoever is hosting the wedding, whether that is the bride or groom, bride’s parents, groom parents or any other combination. The wording becomes more complicated the more people that are involved or if parents are divorced, etc but wording can be adapted to accommodate the different circumstances. For example:
  • (if either parent is widowed): Mr Paul Jones / Mrs Rita Jones, requests the pleasure…
  • (parents are divorced): Mr Paul Jones and Mrs Rita Jones request the pleasure…
  • (parents divorced, mother remarried): Mr Paul Jones and Mrs Rita Wilson request…
  • Continental Europeans and practising members of the Jewish community send cards including the names of both sets of parents e.g.: Mr and Mrs Paul Jones request the pleasure of your company at the marriage of their daughter Nicola to John, son of Mr & Mrs Peter Smith.

Invitations to the evening party

The wording is usually to be similar to the reception invite but usually states it is an invite to the evening reception and therefore has a different start time.

Formal wedding invite wording

Here are some examples of wording to use on a formal wedding invite from the bride’s parents, (alter the initial line to accommodate your own personal circumstances).

Option 1

Mr & Mrs Paul Jones
request the pleasure of the company of
to celebrate the marriage of their daughter
Nicola to Mr John Smith
at 3pm,  Saturday 5th May 2012

St Mary’s Church
The reception afterwards will be held at
Somewhere Hotel

RSVP by 5th April 2012 to Mr & Mrs Jones, address

Option 2

Mr & Mrs Paul Jones
request the honour of your presence of……………………………………………….
to celebrate the marriage of their daughter
Nicola to Mr John Smith
at 3pm, Saturday 27th August 2011
St Mary’s Church
The reception afterwards will be held at
Somewhere Hotel
RSVP by 5th May 2012 to Mr & Mrs Jones, address

Informal wedding invitation wording

 For informal wedding invitations you can choose whatever words you like, here are some examples we have seen used:

Option 3

Miss Nicola Jones & Mr John Smith
would be delighted if
would join them to celebrate their marriage
at St Mary’s Church
on Saturday 5th May 2012 at 3.00 pm
Dinner and Dancing afterwards will be held at
Somewhere Hotel

RSVP 5th May 2012 to Nicola and John at some address

Option 4

Because you have believed in them,
Celebrated with them
Loved and encouraged them,
We, Rita and Paul Jones and
Mary and Peter Smith
Ask you to join us in honoring our children
Nicola Jones And John Smith
As they celebrate the beginning of their adventures together
3pm, 5th May 2012
Somewhere Hotel
Bring your dancing shoes, dinner and music immediately following ceremony
RSVP by 5th April

Option 5

Your love and friendship have helped us become who we are.

Together with our parents,
we invite you to share our joy
and support our love,
as we exchange vows and
celebrate our marriage.

Nicola and John

Saturday, 5th May 2012, 3 pm
Somewhere Hotel

A celebration with dinner, drinks and dancing will follow.

RSVP by 5th April

Option 6

Nicola Jones

Daughter of Rita and Paul Smith

John Smith
Son of Mary and Peter Smith
Are Getting Hitched!
Please join them
for a celebration of love, friendship, laughter and family
5th May 2012
3 pm
Somewhere Hotel
Fabulous food, fun, and festivities to follow
RSVP by 5th April

Option 7

Beautiful Bride

Handsome Groom

Booze, Food, & Bad Dance Moves,

You in or what?

 Nicola & John

Invite you to join in their wedding celebrations

3pm, 5th May 2012
Somewhere Hotel
dinner and dancing immediately following ceremony
RSVP by 5th April

Inviting/Not Inviting Children Wording

If children are invited, make this clear by including their names on their parents’ invitation. Parents should assume that the invitation is for them alone if their children’s names are not specified.

It can be tactful to include a short note to parents, such as: ‘Much as we would like to invite all the children of our friends, it is only possible to accommodate the children of close family’, or, ‘We are sorry we are unable to accommodate children’ or ‘I am afraid it is a no kiddies event so please let your hair down, relax and celebrate by having a drink or 2,or 3…’

If you are inviting children, let parents know if you have made special childcare arrangements: ‘We have arranged child‐minding facilities for the duration of the service and/or reception’.

Wedding Gift Wording

It is always difficult deciding whether to include a gift request or not. These days it seems to be the norm and is expected so I don’t think too much offence will be caused if you include the request.This request should not really be on the main invite but is better placed on a separate information sheet, or on your wedding website if you have one.

If you have a tradition gift list held at a store you could use this example:

‘Whilst your presence at our wedding is more than enough, we appreciate that you may wish to buy us a gift. Our gift list is held at xxxxx’

As many people nowadays live together before getting married, some traditional wedding presents are not always appropriate, here are some examples of asking for a gift of money.

‘We have lived together for a while now and have bought most household items that are traditional wedding presents. If you feel you would like to make a gesture, a gift of money towards our future together would be greatly appreciated.’

‘We are sending out this invitation, in the hope that you will join our celebration, but if a gift is your intention, may we take this opportunity to mention, we already have got a kettle and toaster, crockery, dinner mats and matching coasters. So rather than something we have already got, we would appreciate money for our honeymoon pot. But most importantly we request, that you come to our wedding as our guest.’

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